What is it Like
to the Beat
of a Different Drum?
IF you've ever been told you are "wrong”
in what you want from life,
in what you believe,
in what you treasure and value,
no doubt you were hurt.
And if you told someone else that,
there is no doubt they were hurt.
The hurt doesn't come from a thin skin,
or from being over-sensitive.
It comes from that deep,
that the person who said that
didn't care enough to really want to know you;
didn't want to understand who you are
and where you're coming from.
Instead, they compared you
to what they were familiar with,
and you came up short.
Their reaction implies that their way
is the only one in the universe that's right.
who you are,
or the road you took
to become you doesn’t matter
– there will be no accommodation on their part
that’s strange (unfamiliar) or “different”.
It is a total rejection of you as a person.
You can sense the
I can’t be bothered
attitude they have.
It is two cultures clashing -
“the customs of your people are different from those of mine, Jim”
- and they do not want to learn what yours are,
or were. 1
Do You March
To The Beat
Of A Different Drum?
If I do not want what you want,
please try not to tell me
that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you,
at least pause
before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours,
given the same circumstances,
try not to ask me
to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act,
in the manner
of your design for action,
let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least,
ask you to understand me.
That will come only
when you are willing to give up
changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent,
your offspring, your friend,
If you will allow me any of my own wants,
then you open yourself,
so that some day
these ways of mine
might not seem so wrong,
and might finally
appear to you as right
- for me.
To put up with me
is the first step to understanding me.
Not that you embrace my ways as right for you,
but that you are no longer irritated
or disappointed with me
for my seeming waywardness.
And in understanding me
you might come to prize
my differences from you,
and, far from seeking to change me,
preserve and even nurture
those differences. 2
We march to the sound of different drums
For we both want different things from life
You don't care to discuss anything serious
I know I can't change you.
I won't even try
We march to the sound of different drums
We're out of step . . .
but you never use words
like . . . . . 3
They said follow me,
Imagine all the peace you'll find in conformity,
Now that I am older,
I march to a beat of a different drum,
A beat you've never heard.
You can lead a horse to water
But u can't make him drink,
U can lead a human by the nose
But you can't make him think
I may be lost sometimes
But I don't follow anyone
I'll always march to the beat
The beat of a different drum 4
In your association with others,
put yourself in their place.
Enter into their feelings, their difficulties,
their disappointments, their joys and their sorrows.
Identify yourself with them,
and then do to them as,
were you to exchange places with them,
you would wish them to deal with you. 5
|If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
perhaps it is because
he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music
which he hears,
however measured or far away. 8
|You and I travel to the beat of a different drum
You cry and moan and say it will work out
But honey child I've got my doubts
You can't see the forest for the trees 6
Different eyes see different things
Different hearts beat on different strings
But there are times
For you and me,
when all such things agree 7
The test we must set for ourselves
- is not to march alone -
but to march in such a way
that others wish to join us. 9
 - On Being Different ~Unknown
 Different Drums - Different Drummer
~from "Please Understand Me" by David Keirsey
 -from Sound Of Different Drums ~Connie Smith
 -from Beat Of A Different Drum ~Lower Class Brats
 - Golden Rule ~Unknown
 -from Different Drum ~Linda Ronstadt
 -from Different Strings ~Rush
 ~Henry David Thoreau
 ~Hubert Humphrey
MorningStar Inspirations from
Dawn Cove Abbey
Roadside Assistance For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman MA, © 2007-2017
Questions and comments welcomed.
On Being Different
Different Drum - Different Drummer