Klaas Tuinman
Hello, I'm Klaas, also known as Opa.
How can I be of service to you?
                             Training, Education, Preparation & Other
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    Queen’s University, B.A (Hon), M.A - Kingston, Ontario,
    Canada: Psychology-Sociology and cross-cultural anthropology

    Thornloe College - Theological College at Laurentian University,
    Sudbury, Ontario (Religion and spiritual studies)

    Post Graduate: (open-ended doctoral studies)
    * Oriental & Muslim Psychology, Philosophy, Religion
    * R.D. Laing (healing behaviours of clinically labelled patients)
    * Gregory Bateson (reflections on the Double-Bind)
    * Shamanic and other studies
    * Anthropology, and the ancient thinkers and healers

    Other Related Training and Preparation:
    * Saskatchewan New-Start program (Life Skills facilitation)
    * Eastern Ontario Clinical Hypnotist Association, Kingston, ON
    * Greater NE Academy of Hypnosis, Peabody, Massachusetts
    * Logos Program  - Anglican Church of Canada (specialized
      group  facilitation)

    Related Professional Experience:
    * Teaching Assistant in  the Faculty of Arts and Science (Sociology)
      at Queens University.
    * Professor at Saint-Lawrence Community College (Kingston Campus)
      Faculty of Human Studies: Abnormal Psychology, Anthropology,
      Communication, Sociology, Introductory Psychology
    * Life Skills Facilitator in a program for rescued "street youth",
     called "Ontario New Start" - and later "Futures".
    * Co-moderated of AOL's Abuse Survivors forum (4 years)
    * Online Social Science tutor for University of San Francisco
    * Life Skills Coordinator-Facilitator, Yarmouth Community
      Learning Centre; Yarmouth, Nova Scotia
    *  Itinerant rural LifeSkills and phys ed facilitator for the
      Kingston Ontario school board.
    * Hosted two online eLists (early internet days)
    * In 1992) I opened and operated a Self-Help electronic
      Bulletin Board  System, which grew into this website eventually;
      which is a work in process and progress, as I am, also.
    * Guest speaker (and sponsor) at A.A and N.A chapters in
      Yarmouth, Nova Scotia
    * Currently returned to private practice helping people re-create
      their lives:
    * As well, I am an independent mental/spiritual/emotional health
      consultant to M.E.N.D. a Community-Based Alternative,
      Educational/Healing Organization in Meaford, Ontario;
    * Am also engaged in  chaplaincy/spiritual services.
35+ years in private practice - (incl. 25 years online Self-help and Support provider),
and engaged in Inner Child recovery, healing and empowerment, and Spiritual
Advancement activities; as well as facilitating Workshops and Seminars

Others have called me: Chaplain, Life Coach, Facilitator, Teacher, Mentor, Priest,
Psychetherapist, Social Anthropologist, Padre

But to me, I am simply a:
Life & spiritual Student, Teacher, Tutor, Chaplain,  Mentor, Guide and Facilitator:
just me: doing what's Right - rather than what's "proper".
Dawn Cove Abbey
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"Roadside Assistance" For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
From, "One! The Journey hOMe", the eBook by Klaas Tuinman M.A © 2007-2020
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Questions and Comments welcomed.
All inquiries held in strictest confidence, and there is no obligation
Thank you for visiting. How may I be of service to you?
Credentials are at the bottom of this page.

                                                                  INTRODUCTION:

Much, if not most, of what I have learned about the fascinating diversity and awesomely intricate complexity of the
human condition and "behaviour", I learned from others: and I remain "a willing student".

From childhood on, I've been a student of Life and of people; as well as being the creator of Dawn Cove Abbey,
a Life Skills Facilitator, a college professor (currently on pause), a chaplain, and a practising social anthro-
pologist - serving as a mentor, guide, counsellor, facilitator, and at times a tutor; I'm a listener and observer.
I use what I have learned
from people, and about people, to help folks find solutions to their issues, challenges
and "problems" - either how to overcome them, or adapt, or else how to live, and cope with them in new, better
ways:
ones that work for them.

To get there, I took a different road - one that would allow me to become one who is able to be of positive,
constructive service to those who request my assistance in becoming well, and reach their human
potential.
So far, as a  non-conformist explorer, path-finder, and consulting specialist-practitioner, the road I've taken
has worked well, both for me and for my students and clients. I continue to actively engage in refining, adapting,
and expanding on what I've learned.

My formation began early in my life (as is the case for all of us): I began to acquire and accumulate knowledge
folks: at first, from the elders I grew up with, neighbours and family, and later on, from friends at school and
college, my children, co-workers, students, clients - people from all walks of life and cultures, all engaged in a
hugely diverse activities, customs, and experiences, etc. People are fascinating: at once interesting, and yet so
often beautifully - but at times so frustratingly, contrary. We are enigmatic, while simply being "just" human  - in all
our complexity.

I am grateful for the knowledge I've collected, and continue to acquire, from them. It's kind of the "meta
knowledge" - the template- that all the "data", information etc, that I've gathered, "fits into". My educational
journey, so to speak, is an organic, on-going, as-yet-incomplete,  academic doctoral preparation, that will never
be finished: for the story is a never ending one - there is never a point where it is all definitive -an end point.
Frequently,  just as it feels that you're "almost there",  some totally new unforeseen and unexpected experience or
behaviour, or insight or perspective will pop up, that alters, contradicts or skews - and thus changes, the whole
accumulated "picture" -life is gloriously dynamic- as are people.

That dynamism equally applies to all of us, because each of us as observer-participants are on continual growth
journeys at the same time: ones that are also dynamic, organic and ever expanding, modifying, adapting,
changing: so it is for all of us. I am hugely indebted to the elders of the two culturally different communities I grew
up in: that association helped form the "meta-knowledge" template. It was, and remains, invaluable knowledge
and acquired insights derived through listening to them; and reflecting on it all.

One outstanding characteristic quality, or trait, that I came away with early, through my interaction with, and
exposure to others, was that no person ever was a "some-thing name" (
label). To me, and many   folks around
me, others were simply, "people they knew", people who were well-established in their own given name; and each
person had/have their "own ways": people who in many cases had challenges to overcome         - and did so to
the best of their ability, without the benefit of many of the "problem-solving" methods in vogue,     or use, today.

Labels are usually given for life - it is pure stigmatism:  not only were they demeaning of people, but they were,
and are, often incorrect: and once someone had been given a label, they would/will be judged and treated
according to that label. The other "down" side of this is, that those who are given the label often begin "living up
to" it: often resulting in using it as an excuse for their behaviour and ways. Over the years, my distaste of labels
has only intensified.

Why "social anthropologist"? Well, bear with me. From childhood on, I did a lot of reading: eclectically.  In
reading, you encounter more people, in different situations, places, times and circumstances, and you learn  
about how they went about life, and lived through and its ups and downs. It doesn't matter (it certainly didn't to
me), whether it was fiction or non-fiction; books are written by people, who are speaking/writing about the human
condition (as they see and experience it). s I wrote above, much can be learned from others, in many ways - on
many levels. For, while reading (particularly in fiction) we can/do slowly blend ourselves into the story, and
connect with certain portions that resonate with us - and we momentarily reflect, and in that moment we often get
an insight, or a totally new perspective, on Life, our situation in it, and an increased appreciation of others in their
life circumstances. And thus my attraction to anthropology was activated.

And it was largely due to the fact that early in my youth, we moved from Holland (Netherlands) to Canada, and
after learning the language, I once again listened to the stories told by the "old folks" (they were now the "new"
Old Folks - in a different
culture), and once again I learned much: especially how culture is a huge factor in our
formation and lives.

Not only do certain human challenges appear to be "universal": these but are often regarded (and treated) in
quite different ways from culture to culture. Not "better" or "worse", just different. Even more interesting, and
somewhat exciting, is that different cultures often have quite different ways of dealing with these.

I drew upon that later on as I engaged in helping people solve their "problems" and challenges professionally, for
that requires, based on acquired knowledge and experience, getting "know" a person - for each person, is brings
a new language/culture that requires me to adapt to: kinda of "learning the person". It is virtually learning a new
language (and culture). That's the environment they bring into the narrative - and the one they will return to after
the session. And that is extremely important to take into consideration. Psychology as currently practised (there
are exceptions) do not take that significance into account to the degree necessary: hence, my shift in approach
and focus. Sociology approaches human life too broadly, and Psychology to narrowly: hence anthropology.

In the path I have chosen learned, and continue to learn, more, new and helpful things: useful, and helpful things,
toward understanding the human condition, and ways and means of helping them deal with challenges, issues
and obstacles in their lives: and the importance of hearing, and heeding, their stories. I could not acheve that via
the "normal" road, because academically, it was primarily a collegium of scientists: where were the humanists?

Thus my extra-curricular reading included the works of such "renaissance", humanistic folks, psychologists/
psychiatrists/writers/philosophers as R.D Laing, Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, Rollo May, Erich Fromm, Edgar
Cayce, Scott M. Peck, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Vicktor Frankl, Gregory Bateson, Andrew Weil, Margaret Mead,
Edward Sapir, C.G. Jung, etc. As well, there as the writings of the "ancients". All of them added greatly to my
understanding, and personal growth, in being able to help people in emotional, mental and spiritual
need. They were much more in line with the human, and humanistic realm of the old folks.

Soon after completing my academic post-graduate studies, I began to teach "Abnormal Psychology",
Communication, Anthropology, and related subjects at St. Lawrence Community College, in Kingston,
Ontario; always giving my students the "au courant" approach, as well as my own  (they needed to survive
among the other "required" knowledge and  information in subsequent courses); and not just the gleanings
from my humanistic approach. As well, I took special training to be a Life Skills coach/facilitator (see below). And
because the spiritual dimension of life is so important, and there is such great variation in religious and spiritual
beliefs and their impact on people, I did religious studies - in order to gain more understanding of these, and also
to gain people's confidence in the help I was offering them, in ways that resonated with them.

I also engaged in self-directed studies in Oriental Religions and Mysticism. I was ordained a catholic priest
in 1998  (not Roman Catholic), and am a member of the
Catholic Apostolic Church Of Antioch.  At my
ordination, I was commissioned to be a tent-maker "itinerant/street" priest (meaning earning my own living
and not being a paid "employee" of a parish); thus my commission was to provide spiritual, emotional and
mental support and help wherever I found someone in need: to serve them ("ministering to") ecumenically,
non-denominationally; - to address their needs, and to celebrate the sacraments when and where needed-
no evangelizing. It is a joy, and privilege, to serve in that capacity: Click Tap
HERE to see the range of
Services I offer.

Concurrently, in my private practice,  I found myself dealing with alcoholism, family dysfunction, other
addictions, violence and abuse, stress, anxiety, fear, grief, anger, etc: a whole new world. Soon after, I began
simultaneous to use online methods of providing information and help to people  - and still do as an option
(once a teacher, always a teacher). Along with this, I do workshops and seminars. I am still in private practice,
as well as being a mental, spiritual, emotional health consultant to a community alternative healing
organization: M.E.N.D. located in Meaford, Ontario.

All this led me to create Dawn Cove Abbey online: It's format is like a gigantic Library with information,
stories, articles, and essays and poems - all of which contain elements of what I've written above, and any, or
all, of which can be the "nudge" that points people in the direction of healing, recovery and empowerment.

Additionally, because it had become clear that a large number of so-called "disorders", "spectrums", etc,
aren't really disorders at all: rather, they are people's reactions to circumstances, and the coping methods/
mechanisms they use to deal with whatever triggered the response, and the response itself: see
About Healing,
for more detail. That being the case, those mechanisms require being responded to not as disorders
per se, but as responses and coping mechanisms, and help clients to identify the trigger - and why the trigger
was/is there in the first place, and together discover ways of dealing with it/them, for recovery and healing.
Fear is also an important big factor in both "disorders", "phobias", and addictions and I do not think that the
connection between these has been adequately explored nearly far enough in regard to these, nearly as much
as it could be, let alone utilized.

In summary, it is my opinion, so-called "disorders" are not medical, physical or "mental" problems (only). They are
reactions, coping mechanisms and strategies of people (victims) who were damaged by a deeply dysfunctional
culture - and then having tried to "fit into" it, unsuccessfully. The so-called "disorders" are behavioural patterns
and modes, that they employ to gain or regain their sanity; to recover and heal, but because of the fear, they are
not always successful.

I will walk your healing journey with you, but since it isn't my journey, because it is yours; we don't walk MY
way. We will walk YOUR way. My role is to help you avoid the pitfalls along the way - and point out new
alternatives and options - at your speed, and based on Your need. Above all, I remain a "Willing Student".

In my "other life", I love the great outdoors, and nature photography is a passion. It's what I do for stress-
relief; the outdoors and walking are good for that. I also enjoy creating inspirational  graphics: both activities
give my creative centres an outlet. I helped raise 5 children, have 13 grandchildren, and 12 great-grand
children, as well as 2 great-great-grandchildren (to date), and I feel forever young. Oh yes, I'm 77 years
young (2020). Bless you, I wish you well on your journey.

                                        The experience and credentials information follows: