When the hurts received from others react to them, an amazingly curious thing happens:
they reveal what/who is most loved, prized or precious to them:
it will be the thing/person they turn against and take it out on.
As a child it might manifest as tearing legs, arms and head off most fav doll, or trashing a
prize airplane model, or maiming or hurting a beloved pet; in adulthood it might be
destroying a loved tool or appliance, attack & hurt the loved one, or push the loved one away
harder and harder, or run as far away as possible.
They attack, destroy, damage, maim, hurt or leave exactly those things or people most
precious & loved to them.
Only later, when all the demolition and carnage is done, do they take stock and fully come
to realize, not just what they've done, but what they've lost.
And this has been known for ages - there's a song about it that people have known for
years: "You always hurt the one you love".
And the pain will grow, and the hurt will grow, and the guilt will grow, and the self-hatred,
self-loathing and self-disgust And the pain will grow, and the hurt will grow.
And rage will build. This is the point at which healing/recovery can begin - because that is
when people are ready - or can be.
Recover-Heal by loving yourself
|Dawn Cove Abbey
Roadside Assistance For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman MA, © 2007-2017
Questions and comments welcomed.