Trust and Trust Issues:

Trust (or lack thereof) - or trust issues come honestly
by the description of
"the Relationship Killer".
* The five most difficult things in the world to come up against and
overcome are,  
doubt, mistrust, disbelief, suspicion and jealousy:  Doubt
jealousy lead to disbelief, mistrust and suspicion. Once those have
arrived on the scene the relationship (or friendship) is in serious
trouble, for these things are among the hardest and most
difficult things to overcome.

* That's why trust issues in relationships are widely known as the
number one relationship killers

What is trust? A short description

* Trust is: letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions,
and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not
take advantage of you.
* Trust is: the glue or cement of relationships that allows you
to need others to fulfill yourself.
* Trust is: opening yourself up (self-disclosure) to let others
in on your background, problems, concerns, and mistakes
with the assurance that they will not ostracize you because of these things.

* Trust is: the act of placing yourself in the vulnerable position of
relying on others to treat you in a fair, open, and honest way.

Trust is one of the most difficult things to build and acquire. And while
it may take some time to break that trust - if it is broken
- it will take much, much longer to rebuild.

Truly, rebuilding trust a second time, after it has been broken is
a monumental task - and takes a long time. This is mainly
because in offering trust, we make ourselves vulnerable - and
once the vulnerability has been violated, we "play it much
safer" the second time around.

People don't trust, or have trouble developing trust,
if they have:
Experienced a great deal of emotional and/or
physical abuse and/or neglect. Been emotionally hurt in the
past and are not willing to risk getting hurt in the future.

All of the above are essential components to Trust, and Building Trust.
Also: Read "Trust Begins With You"
And  "
Trust Issues in Relationships"
"Rules For Being Human"
Trust Issues in Relationships: The Relationship Killer

Building Trust: Trust and Trusting
One of the first steps is to stop always looking for, and assuming
there are,    "hidden agendas and motives" on everyone else's
part - that simply isn't so.

That means to stop being suspicious all the time, of everyone - that
simply isn't fair - and makes it difficult, if not impossible for you to
learn trust, and others to actually "see" you as an authentic,
fair-minded person.

Starting point for rebuilding trust. Ask yourself:
Why do I lack trust in the persons, groups, or institutions listed above?
What beliefs do I hold that are behind my lack of trust in the
persons, groups, or institutions listed in above?
Why can't I refute my Irrational Belief and replace with a positive one?
Why can't I affirm new personal beliefs?
What does my experience tell me about changes I need to make
to develop my ability to trust?
What are the remaining blocks to developing my sense of trust?
What am I willing to do to continue developing my sense of trust?

Revisions, additions and expansion are coming - please come back soon.
Do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of
fatigue and loneliness. ~
The Desiderata~

Also read "
The Awakening"
Klaas Tuinman
Dawn Cove Abbey
Deerfield, (Yarmouth County) Nova Scotia, Canada
(1985 – rev: 2009/2019)
"Roadside Assistance" For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman M.A © 2007-2019

Questions and comments welcomed.