Stress: Management and Coping Strategies
Recap on Stress.
  • Stress is often considered to be something that  happens to people: an event     
    such as an injury or a promotion, and a myriad of other things.
  • Others think that stress is what happens to our bodies,  minds and behaviours in
    response to an event  (e.g,  heart pounding, anxiety, or nail biting).
  • The official Health and Safety definition of stress is: Stress is the adverse
    reaction  people have to excessive pressures  or other types of demand placed
    upon them. It  arises when  they worry they can’t cope’.
  • "Stress" is not just one thing, or a single event, that happens to us. Everything      
    we experience "stays with  us" - the good and the "bad";
  • the after-effects of our stressors stay around for  at least a year.

CAUSES and Reactions: Summary
One cause of Stress is "inner pain", by hanging onto their hurts, and inhibiting  
  • People learn to avoid feeling excitement by holding their breath or squeezing
  • Tightening against intense pleasure pain;
  • emotions: fear, joy, anger, grief, orgasm, laughter.

Chronic excessive muscular tension is a system of habitual muscular contractions        
that keep a person's spontaneous impulses in.
  • A holding against feeling, emotion, expression.
  • Repression, depression.
  • Depressing yourself.
  • It absorbs energy: hinders spontaneous body function: sensation   sensitivity   
    creativity   productivity   communication and feeling.
  • Producing deadness, numbing whole  areas of the body; inhibiting breathing,
    movement, the flow of energy.

"Hanging on" to stressors results in
  • Creating in a person the experience of being blocked off, in a dream like state      
    of half aliveness: halts the process of actualizing the Human Potential.
  • Stuck: separate from him/herself and the world.
  • Excessive tension, words, sensory limitation all lead to automatic, conditioned  
  • A lack of joy, honesty, humour, love: being bored to death; deliberate, phoney.

Managing/combatting Stress:
To truly combat stress, in most cases requires more than adding some new things       
into life - while removing some others. Take the
Stress Test.

Letting go (and maybe forgiving) brings relaxation:
  • Relaxation is ease: giving in, letting go, letting out, letting in, open flow;            
    giving out.
  • The natural state of a human being.
  • Changing/Exchanging activities (see Awesome Stress Management)
  • Physical exercise (activity) is an excellent stress buster.
  • Relaxation techniques can help (relaxation below your mind - see  Healing Circle.
stress, or to manage or reduce it, as there are people.

Things to do immediately that will help temporarily:
  • Physical exercise (activity) is an excellent stress buster.
  • Relaxation techniques can help.
  • Depending on the "sources" perhaps a spiritual approach may be needed.
However - although many of the most commonly recommended techniques will help
deal with the effects of stress - they do not always solve "the problem". Truly   
coping with it - and overcoming it - requires other steps. Some of the steps you        
can do on your own - others require help and new insights.

This is one source that provides such help.  Healing often (usually) involves several
dimensions (the Body-Mind-Soul/Spirit trinity).

Some of the best ways to facilitate healing (coping - overcoming) is through various
Relaxation techniques. These not only counter Stress, but also calm us mentally,
physically & emotionally. In our workshop we teach & demonstrate:
  •        Meditation (for more on this, visit Joel and Michelle Levey's site  
  •        Visual Imagery
  •        Body Massage
  •        Deep Relaxation
  •        Autogenics
its effect on our lives, by itself, is not enough for reducing its harmful effects.

Just as there are many sources of stress, there are many possibilities for its  
management. However, all require work toward change: changing the source of stress
and/or changing your reaction to it (below is an outline): detailed training in our   

Here is an outline of some ways to proceed toward managing your stress, or better   
coping strategies.
  • Become aware of your stressors and your emotional and physical reactions.
  • Recognize what you can change.
  • Reduce the intensity of your emotional reactions to stress.
  • Learn to moderate your physical reactions to stress.
  • Build your physical reserves.
  • Maintain your emotional reserves.
Suggested additional reading:

Relaxation  for Body & Mind - Stress Buster
I offer a form of Deep Relaxation & Autogenic Training that effectively   
goes "below your mind" - so deep that it leaves you renewed, refreshed      
and re-empowered (see

Klaas Tuinman
Dawn Cove Abbey
Deerfield, (Yarmouth County) Nova Scotia, Canada 2010-17
I sincerely hope that you take the Less Travelled Road  and that it brings
 and healing to you.

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is  to determine (analyze) your source, or sources of     
stress, and then choosing, or selecting a strategy that         
will reduce  the effects of stress, or remove the source.
Remember that one of the sources very likely, is

Secondly, it will almost certainly require change, or    
exchange: changing what you do and how you go about it;      
and perhaps exchanging some stressful activities or   
thoughts (or both), for more positive ones.

The purpose (and need) is to restore Balance:
a process of Detoxifying yourself of negative energies       
and thoughts, and destructive biochemistry (cortisol and
excess adrenaline, for example). See
and reducing the Overload in your life.
Dawn Cove Abbey