Stress: Management and Coping Strategies
  • Stress is often considered to be something that happens to people: an event such as an injury or a
promotion, and a myriad of other things.
  • Others think that stress is what happens to our bodies,  minds and behaviours in response to an
event  (e.g,  heart pounding, anxiety, or nail biting).
  • The official Health and Safety definition of stress is: Stress is the adverse reaction people have to
 excessive pressures,  or other types of demand placed upon them. It  arises when  they worry
 they can’t cope
  • "Stress" is not just one thing, or a single event, that happens to us. Everything we experience "stays
 with  us" - the good and the "bad";
  • the after-effects of our stressors stay around for  at least a year.

CAUSES and Reactions: Summary
One cause of Stress is "inner pain", by hanging onto their hurts, and inhibiting  themselves.
  • People learn to avoid feeling excitement by holding their breath or squeezing muscles.
  • Tightening against intense pleasure pain;
  • emotions: fear, joy, anger, grief, orgasm, laughter.

Chronic excessive muscular tension is a system of habitual muscular contractions that keep a person's
spontaneous impulses in.
  • A holding against feeling, emotion, expression.
  • Repression, depression.
  • Depressing yourself.
  • It absorbs energy: hinders spontaneous body function: sensation - sensitivity - creativity
productivity - communication and feeling.
  • Producing deadness, numbing whole  areas of the body; inhibiting breathing, movement, the
 flow of energy.

"Hanging on" to stressors results in
  • Creating in a person the experience of being blocked off, in a dream like state of half aliveness:
halts the process of actualizing the Human Potential.
  • Stuck: separate from him/herself and the world.
  • Excessive tension, words, sensory limitation all lead to automatic, conditioned  behaviour.
  • A lack of joy, honesty, humour, love: being bored to death; deliberate, phoney.

Managing/combatting Stress:
To truly combat stress, in most cases requires more than adding some new things into life - while
removing some others.
Take the Stress Test (Contact me).

Letting go (and maybe forgiving) brings relaxation:
  • Relaxation is ease: giving in, letting go, letting out, letting in, open flow; giving out.
  • The natural state of a human being.
  • Changing/Exchanging activities (see Awesome Stress Management)
  • Physical exercise (activity) is an excellent stress buster.
  • Relaxation techniques can help (relaxation below your mind - see  Healing Circle.
However - although many of the most commonly recommended techniques will help
coping with it - and overcoming it - requires other steps. Some of the steps you can
do on your own - others require help and new insights.

This is one source that provides such help.  Healing often (usually) involves several
dimensions (the Body-Mind-Soul/Spirit trinity).

Some of the best ways to facilitate healing (coping - overcoming) is through various
Relaxation techniques. These not only counter Stress, but also calm us mentally,
physically & emotionally. In our workshop we teach & demonstrate:
  •        Meditation (for more on this, visit Joel and Michelle Levey's site  
  •        Visual Imagery
  •        Body Massage
  •        Deep Relaxation
  •        Autogenics
To truly manage and reduce stress, identifying unrelieved stress and being aware of     
its effect on our lives, by itself, is not enough for reducing its harmful effects.

Just as there are many sources of stress, there are many possibilities for its  management.
However, all require work toward change: changing the source of stress and/or changing your
reaction to it (below is an outline): detailed training in our

Here is an outline of some ways to proceed toward managing your stress, or better   coping
  • Become aware of your stressors and your emotional and physical reactions.
  • Recognize what you can change.
  • Reduce the intensity of your emotional reactions to stress.
  • Learn to moderate your physical reactions to stress.
  • Build your physical reserves.
  • Maintain your emotional reserves.
Suggested additional reading:

Relaxation  for Body & Mind - Stress Buster
I offer a form of Deep Relaxation & Autogenic Training that effectively   goes
"below your mind" - so deep that it leaves you renewed, refreshed      and re-
empowered (see

Klaas Tuinman
Dawn Cove Abbey
Deerfield, (Yarmouth County) Nova Scotia, Canada 2010-19
I sincerely hope that you take the Less Travelled Road  and that it brings
 and healing to you.

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Managing Stress: The first step in Stress Management      
is  to determine (analyze) your source, or sources of     
stress, and then choosing, or selecting a strategy that         
will reduce  the effects of stress, or remove the source.
Remember that one of the sources very likely, is

Secondly, it will almost certainly require change, or    
exchange: changing what you do and how you go about it;      
and perhaps exchanging some stressful activities or   
thoughts (or both), for more positive ones.

The purpose (and need) is to restore Balance:
a process of Detoxifying yourself of negative energies       
and thoughts, and destructive biochemistry (cortisol and
excess adrenaline, for example). See
and reducing the Overload in your life.
How Does one manage or cope with stress? There are perhaps as many ways to cope with
stress, or to manage or reduce it, as there are people.

Things to do immediately that will help temporarily:
  • Physical exercise (activity) is an excellent stress buster.
  • Relaxation techniques can help.
  • Depending on the "sources" perhaps a spiritual approach may be needed.