Love is a single word with many meanings, and is difficult to define, describe, understand,
or figure out  . . .  Love also isn't a single fixed emotion, for there are many subtle
differences between the various types of love. Here is an outline:

The Four “Loves” (Basic - there are other variations - read on)) There are four different
types, or styles, of love that have their own characteristics and personalities. They are
commonly given the names that the ancient Greeks coined to characterize the different
love styles:
Agape is unconditional love (also known as Caritas)
Storge is Affection, love of family
Philia is love between friends
Eros is the sense of being in love
All About Love: The Different Forms Of Love
Klaas Tuinman
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Eros (έρως)
Eros means romantic love from which the word erotic comes, but does not necessarily imply
sexuality. It's love in the sense of 'being in love': the chemical reaction that  happens
between two people. It's infatuation between people, and is like “puppy love”. Eros is the
desire to draw out all that is good, beautiful and true. It is motivated   by, and involves,
emotional need; to elicit physical love and affection from the one  you love. It's often
understood to refer primarily to sex, but that's really only one  significant  part of it.

True love requires all four types of Love.
Most relationships today are based on one type of love. If your relationship does
not contain these four types of love, you may have the recipe for disaster.

                                     Other forms or styles of love . . .
Security Love: is the love that everybody needs to survive - that feeling of being cared for
and nurtured. Some people would describe this as the type of love parents have for their
children (storge): this is so important. It is high on Maslow's
Hierarchy of  Needs  concept.

Pragma (Logical) Love: is realistic, practical love. The type of love which can go out
looking for a partner based on a shopping list of requirements, which can be a bit
unemotional. Sometimes, though, pragma love also contains a bit of Ludus love (see   
below) Pragma Love is often a combination of storge and ludus love, and refers to a
practical or logical love in which someone actively searches for a partner with certain

Love or Infatuation? Love and infatuation often misunderstood which is unfortunate,
because the difference between is big. How can you tell whether it’s
Infatuation or Love?
When you have Red Flag Thoughts like, “
You are my life. I can't live without you,” it’s  
likely infatuation, especially if it persists after several months (in true “love” that  kind of
feeling also tends to happen initially, but changes to something deeper). In a sense,
infatuation is like

Infatuation is like puppy love/crush – like the temporary love of an adolescent. Infatuation is
the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love;
addictive love.

Some of the “symptoms” of infatuation are:
(these don’t go with love).
feelings of panic,
overpowering lust,
feverish excitement,
impatience, and/or jealously.

When infatuated, people are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There
are lingering, nagging doubts about their partner and their love for them. They are
miserable when they’re away, almost like they’re not complete unless they’re with them.
It’s a rush and it’s intense.
It’s difficult to concentrate.
Most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. For  them,
somehow being with the object of their infatuation is not complete unless in ends in some
type of sexual encounter. They idealize their behavior and aren't accepting of their whole
They place them on a pedestal.
They tend to fantasize about them

Infatuation means that “
we need to get married, right away cause I don't trust you and I'm
afraid that I'm gonna lose you
”. Infatuation is when we look at that person almost as if they
were a mentor to us and everything they do and say is just the right action and pleases us
to no end.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely
happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your   
beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Infatuation is in fact love not with the other person, but the image of that person – a creation
of your mind. Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? Hardly.
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They are always afraid of losing the object of that obsession, and so they tend to try and
hold on to that one person by whatever means it may take.

Obsessive Love / Obsession
Obsessive Love is closely related to Manic Love: which is also obsessive and highly
volatile. These  forms of love are fuelled by low self-esteem; and are troubled with
dependence  on the other person. They are characterized by great intensity and jealousy,

Obsessive & Manic love relationships are probably the worst manifestation of
the feeling of love, or when you mistake obsession for love.

People close to them often become
co-dependent. Generally, love is "other-centered"
where as obsession is "self-centered". Research and clinical experience show that there
are a substantial number of romantic relationships in which an individual is either
desperately trying to get someone to love them or they are desperately trying to keep  the
love of a partner by focusing an inordinate amount of their attention on them. Both cases,
are essentially variations of "obsession." Neither has a thing to do with  genuine love.

When we obsess over our own emotions, we are expressing ourselves on an extremely
selfish level.

Narcissistic Love: another negative form of love is Narcissistic Love. Narcissists "love" their
spouses or other significant others - as long as they continue to reliably provide them with
Narcissistic Supply (in one word, with attention).  Inevitably, they regard others as mere
"sources", objects, or functions. People close to these also often become co-dependent.
Lacking empathy and  emotional maturity, the narcissist's love is sick. But the precise
nature of this depends on the narcissists’ stability or instability in different parts of their life.

Ludas Love: Ludas is called game-playing love. It is like the love of a knight for a princess.
There are playful interactions here but little intimacy or deep intensity.

Companionship Love: is the kind of love that stimulates all five senses. S/he smells good,
feels good, tastes good, sounds good, and looks good. S/he is pleasant company because
s/he makes you feel happy. Many relationships begin with this type of love, but it doesn't
always withstand the pressure of time.

Friendship Love: this is a love between yourself and someone that is totally honest, open
and comfortable. You really only have this kind of bond with a few people. You might  
know  a lot of people  and be "friendly" with them in a group situation but they are not the
best friends.                                                                           
Genuine Love is completely different. It means, "I see a need in you. Let me
have the privilege of meeting it."

Instead of taking for itself, genuine love gives to others. It motivates us to help others
reach their full potential in life. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of
imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your
beloved. You are  warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not
separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep
replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait. Love says,
Don't panic.  Plan your future with confidence."

Unconditional Love is the sincerest love; the love that lasts forever. This kind of love
comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy
unconditional love.

Agape Love, described above, is also a blend of two other types of love;  eros and storge.
This is the love of altruism, of giving without asking anything in return,  and of sacrificing
oneself for one's partner. Many consider it to be the purest form of love.

The love you have for someone will change over time,
in character,
in intensity
and even in type
– but if you have a strong foundation, it will withstand the unfolding changes.

Which kind of love do you love others with?
Which kind of love are you being loved with?
Love, Infatuation, Obsession and more
Agape means unconditional love for someone. Agape is the love that brings forth caring
regardless of circumstance. Agape love is the selfless, sacrificial love for others, in which
nothing is asked in return . . . it is truly  unconditional, which means “
no strings attached”.

Affection - (storge, στοργη)
is fondness through familiarity, especially between family members; parental
affection; the almost instinctive affection such as animals have for their young, and also
people who have  otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as the
most natural, emotive, and  widely diffused of loves. Storge Love exemplifies friendship-
based love. There is  strong companionship and shared values here, but little physical
intimacy. In social psychology, storge is the form of love between exceptional friends, and  
the desire for them to care compassionately for one another.

Philia - Friendship
(philia, φιλια) is a strong bond existing between people who share a common interest or
activity. Philia is Friendship  Love, which is not sexual in nature, though (in the right
circumstance) it can lead to or complement Eros (below). It's the kind of love talked about by
Jesus, who said: "
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his  life for his
."  Philia is the embodiment of everything a true, meaningful friendship represents.   
Philea love truly describes friendship and the bonds that are strengthened by shared
experiences. The city in Pennsylvania, Philadelphia's name means, "city of brotherly Love".