About Healing: Inner Healing - Emotional, Mental and Spiritual

Recovery, Healing, Re-Visioning, Re-Purposing, Establishing New Beginnings
"Roadside Assistance" to assist you in your healing journey
   Inner Healing
An Overview and Introduction
          The "Components" of Healing

Inner Healing is one of the most interesting, yet challenging journeys anyone can ever go on. Much of what you've
heard, read, or been taught about Healing and Inner Healing has either been incomplete, wrong, or inadequate;
the same applies to many of the "remedies", and therapies that flourish: - but seldom address the real causes or
issues. That creates confusion and impedes proper healing approaches. This site, and my approach attempts to
remedy this.

Why we refer to healing as being Holistic.  We are Bio-Electro-Chemical amazing beings: not just bio-physical.
The brain is not the Mind: it is primarily like the main data processor on your computer, smartphone and other
devices; it is the hardware. The "mind" is the software that the brain processes. There is a intricate symbiotic
relationship between the chemistry, biology and the electro-magnetic elements, in a reciprocal way. A change in
any one of those will affect all the others - hence the need for an holistic approach to wholeness, which is the
actual meaning of Heal/Healing: body - mind - spirit. Our emotions and thoughts trigger biological responses that
can lead to serious physical illnesses; and physical illnesses affect our emotions and thoughts. We need to
maintain or create a balance between both the physical and mental/emotional to stay healthy, and involve both in

One immediate change is to understand that people are NOT their "disorder" or "challenge" etc. There is a
vast difference between
BE-ing and HAVE-ing; as in they (you) HAVE a "challenge" or "disorder" - but they/you
NOT that label: the label is not a definition of them/You - it is simply a descriptor of what you/they Have; this is

Healing can be, and often is, an arduous journey; but there's nothing that says it has to be rushed, or done in a
day, or some other pre-ordained or specified time. We all have our own speed, and ways, on walking journeys.  
For more on this, see the introduction on the
Alcoholism main page.

This discussion, and the site's information is intended to reduce your sense of intimidation and uncertainty about
healing scenarios in life. Knowing the nature of what we're faced with, kind of "whittles it down to size", and makes
the process appear much less intimidating and threatening: and therefore the steps, whatever they may be are
both do-able and manageable.

Important aspects (ingredients) in Healing: Set and Setting
Positive inner healing journeys require two very crucial things: "Set" and "Setting": they both play a vital role in the
process. These two are critical components in a number of situations where intense  experiences may occur, or
which are hoped for. That includes "
Peak Experiences".
is our mindset (anticipation, anxiety, excitement etc) as we approach, and go into, the experience.
      It is the most important element. For in our mindset we bring all our attitudes, habitual thoughts, feelings,
culture, childhood formation, beliefs, and quite frequently fear, among others. Our mindset is what
      creates our anticipation (and/or trepidation) of what we are about to experience.

    "Setting" is where the experience is going to take place; our social environment and surroundings: the
     people we surround ourselves with, and the actual physical place.
"Setting" is also the environment       
     /circumstances we live in that contribute, and have contributed, to creating the necessity for healing. It
    is also where we return to after healing consultations; not all setting are conducive to the healing. Often
    it requires being a
family affair.

Understanding the two major modes of behaviour:
    Intentional: it is intentional because we always have a choice; that however, is true only where we are
    in full balanced control, inner harmony of all the dimensions that make us who we are: physical, mental,
    emotional and spiritual. This is the mode most of us would like to think we're in most of the  time, but
    frequently, we are not.

    Reactionary: much of our behaviour is a reaction to something; whether to events, or people, or what
    people did to us, or incidents etc, or a combination of all of these. This usually is anything but
    harmonious  and balanced; and almost always does not address  the causes (events, things, persons,
    circumstances, etc) - hence, this is also what produces  most of human  anti-social and/or dysfunctional

And what we come up with in our reaction to survive are coping strategies:
alcoholism is one such strategy, as   
are the methods used by
children of alcoholic/ dysfunctional families. The "problem" with these is, that almost  
none of them work: at best they do so very briefly, before they in turn become new problems for them to deal with.

    NOTE: connected to these, is this reality: that our thoughts, feelings, emotions etc, are the food we feed
    our mind, spirit and body with;  -any healing journey requires absorbing that truth- and examining what it
    is we feed ourselves with, so to speak. And it is definitely related to who we "hang out with" (setting).

Protecting oneself is both understandable, wise, and important. However, it can be like people trapped within
castle walls; the outsiders can't get in to hurt them, but they can't get out to do whatever it is they want, or need    
to do. So the healing journey is largely about "getting out" in a safe way, while still protecting oneself.

Sometimes, often when we least expect it, we get one of those "Ah-ha" moments, when we see/get what our next
step should/will be: and sometimes we get those as we hear or read someone  else's story; where the light goes
on because we have that realization of,
"Hey, that's me to a Tee" . . .  and sometimes those are huge moments
where we can make a big step forward: seldom the whole solution, yet a big step.
Knowledge, after all, comes in
degrees; bit by bit.
The many shades of being and behaviour human beings come in, is at times totally baffling, sometimes frustrating
or bewildering, and sometimes annoying or hurtful. And at other times people seem to rise above themselves and
are caring, joyful and considerate. And healing is a total process, involving all aspects of our being. There is no
quick, easy "fix". Untangling it all is not easy: there are
"Issues", "Challenges", "Syndromes", "Disorders",
and all sorts of other names and labels to deal with when attempting to make some sort of order into
that seeming chaos - that leave us more puzzled and confused than we already were.

I do not have "THE" answer(s) for you, but I can help YOU find the answer(s) you need. (The answer(s) are
already inside you - you'll rediscover them on your healing journey, here and elsewhere). My role is simply  to
provide "Roadside  Assistance", so to speak.

The Help and Information here are not
"Psychological", "Philosophical", nor "Theological" mumbo-jumbo: rather   
it is acquired from the wisdom garnered by humans over the ages - and added-to by former clients, students - and
through observing people in many places and situations during a long time-frame, as well as through "formal" and
post-graduate study. They are based on Life in all its wondrous vastness, intricacies and "mysteries".

"Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation. Use it!" "We're all walking each other home".
~Ram Dass

Every Journey begins with a single step. Yours too; your First step . . .        No one can walk with you till you take
that first step, beautiful person.

"Recovery" and healing is a process: one that requires your active participation: you need to be engaged in it - or   
it simply will not have the outcomes you desire. To truly heal (it means to "become whole"), it is necessary to get   
to the root of whatever is involved and deal with that. And it takes "Time":
knowledge does come in degrees.

Because of the intricate, complex interplay between Body-Mind-Spirit, it is not always clear whether certain
challenges, issues, (disorders) are "causes", or consequences. Which is why regaining balance, harmony, health
and serenity within ourselves is a challenging, and often frustrating journey, or process. As Chief Seattle
purportedly called it: the web of life. And he rightly said that,
"whatever happens  on the web, anywhere;     
happens to everything else on it; everywhere, always".
    Hello, I'm Klaas, also known as Opa.
    How may I be of service to you?

    Where do I come in, on your journey? Simply
    put, mine is a more minor role, compared to
    yours. I provide the "space" -a safe,
    comfortable place- for you to engage in, in
    creating your own healing "space" - this is a
    rest stop along the way; and there are also
    resources and support of many kinds for
    you to draw upon.

    And I'm here, as a fellow traveller, one who
    has walked  many trails. I am not a
    "counsellor" in the common usage of that
    word - I am a guide or facilitator. I am not
    you - I do not know the answer to what you
    need. But perhaps I maybe able help you
    find it.

    My role is to provide with new tools (the
    information and support items on this site),
    and to listen, and perhaps suggest some
    things for you consider; perhaps ask that if
    what you've been doing isn't working for
    you, to try something else; something
    "new" (anything).

    I cannot, and will not, TELL you what
    to do - I am not you, but . . . I'm here to help you
Dawn Cove Abbey
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