| Dysfunction - Diverse incl. Addiction/Alcoholism Main Page Informational / Inspirational Resources |
Dysfunction and Dysfunctional mean: does not work - not as in not always getting what you
want, your way, always. Rather, it means a lifestyle that doesn't work well -totally- for you,
and all others in your environment.
It is not a "label" applied by others (outsiders). It is a self-reported description/assessment by
members of families that "don't work" as families. It's either not working for a specific member,
or for some of them - or in most cases, not for any of them.
These parental actions and behaviours are not unusual in Dysfunctional Families - they are
quite common: rather than changing/healing their own self-perceived short-comings, they
"punish" the child/children instead - with put-downs, as well as abuse and violence, etc.
want, your way, always. Rather, it means a lifestyle that doesn't work well -totally- for you,
and all others in your environment.
It is not a "label" applied by others (outsiders). It is a self-reported description/assessment by
members of families that "don't work" as families. It's either not working for a specific member,
or for some of them - or in most cases, not for any of them.
These parental actions and behaviours are not unusual in Dysfunctional Families - they are
quite common: rather than changing/healing their own self-perceived short-comings, they
"punish" the child/children instead - with put-downs, as well as abuse and violence, etc.
The causes for this can be due to Alcoholism or other addictions, or be
a generational perpetuation of "learned family behaviour". More on this
to come. Regardless the cause: these families are "toxic".
In many situations families often put us in the difficult position of
choosing between family loyalty and maintaining our own healthy
boundaries.
Family dynamics are heavily influenced by cultural values; and some
cultures put a very high value on the closeness of family, as well as
being loyalty to family. Other cultures do not.
If you come from a culture which places a high value on familial loyalty
and your family is fairly toxic, you can be in trouble. It can create a real
challenge to your own mental health.
This is the site's central "Home" page for the dark side of life.
You'll find articles and support information that explore things like, "what
does a toxic family look like?" As well as the consequences for
everyone, especially children (and seniors) in these situations.
You can read about these (and others to come) by following the
Navigation Menus at either side here (and the one at the bottom for
many more about the Functional, "bright" side of life: walks in the light.
More items are being added continually,
a generational perpetuation of "learned family behaviour". More on this
to come. Regardless the cause: these families are "toxic".
In many situations families often put us in the difficult position of
choosing between family loyalty and maintaining our own healthy
boundaries.
Family dynamics are heavily influenced by cultural values; and some
cultures put a very high value on the closeness of family, as well as
being loyalty to family. Other cultures do not.
If you come from a culture which places a high value on familial loyalty
and your family is fairly toxic, you can be in trouble. It can create a real
challenge to your own mental health.
This is the site's central "Home" page for the dark side of life.
You'll find articles and support information that explore things like, "what
does a toxic family look like?" As well as the consequences for
everyone, especially children (and seniors) in these situations.
You can read about these (and others to come) by following the
Navigation Menus at either side here (and the one at the bottom for
many more about the Functional, "bright" side of life: walks in the light.
More items are being added continually,
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| Dawn Cove Abbey _______________________________ "Roadside Assistance" For Your Journey Through Life ____________________________________________________ From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman M.A © 2007-2020 - Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life - Questions and comments welcomed. |
| . . . . there are many good things in life, and ways to get to them. Below are some topics on the site that may be of help to you, on that. |
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| Child Within Anger Self-Sabotaging/Self Defeating Behaviours Jealousy Stinkin' Thinkin' The negative self-defeating thought patterns of dysfunction Trust Building A discussion & Tips |
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