| Dysfunction - Addiction/Alcoholism Main Page Walks From The Dark To The Light Side Of Life |
- Dysfunction and Dysfunctional mean: does not work - not as in not always
getting what you want, your way, always. Rather, it means a lifestyle that
doesn't work well -totally- for you, and all others in your environment.
It is not a "label" applied by others (outsiders). It is a self-reported description/
assessment by members of families that "don't work" as families. It's either
not working for a specific member, or for some of them - or in most cases,
not for any of them.
These parental actions and behaviours are not unusual in Dysfunctional
Families - they are quite common: rather than changing/healing their own
self-perceived short-comings, they "punish" the child/children instead
- with put-downs, as well as abuse and violence, etc.
- The causes for this can be due to Alcoholism or other addictions,
or be a generational perpetuation of "learned family behaviour".
More on this to come. Regardless the cause: these families are
"toxic".
In many situations families often put us in the difficult position
of choosing between family loyalty and maintaining our own
healthy boundaries.
Family dynamics are heavily influenced by cultural values; and
some cultures put a very high value on the closeness of family,
as well as being loyalty to family. Other cultures do not.
If you come from a culture which places a high value on familial
loyalty and your family is fairly toxic, you can be in trouble. It can
create a real challenge to your own mental health.
This is the site's central "Home" page for the dark side of life.
You'll find articles and support information that explore things
like, "what does a toxic family look like?" As well as the
consequences for everyone, especially children (and seniors) in
these situations.
You can read about these (and others to come) by following the
Navigation Menus at either side here (and the one at the bottom
for many more about the Functional, "bright" side of life: walks
in the light. More items are being added continually,
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| Dawn Cove Abbey _______________________________ "Roadside Assistance" For Your Journey Through Life ____________________________________________________ From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman M.A © 2007-2019 - Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life - Questions and comments welcomed. |
| . . . . there are many good things in life, and ways to get to them. Below are some topics on the site that may be of help to you, on that. |
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| Child Within Anger Self-Sabotaging/Self Defeating Behaviours Jealousy Stinkin' Thinkin' The negative self-defeating thought patterns of dysfunction Trust Building A discussion & Tips |
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