Dysfunction - Addiction/Alcoholism

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Walks From The Dark To The Light Side Of Life
    Dysfunction and Dysfunctional mean: does not work - not as in not always
    getting what you want, your way, always.  Rather, it means a lifestyle that
    doesn't work well -totally- for you, and all others in your environment.

    It is not a "label" applied by others (outsiders). It is a self-reported description/
    assessment by members of families that "don't work" as families. It's either
    not working for a specific member, or for some of them - or in most cases,
    not for any of them.

    These parental actions and behaviours are not unusual in Dysfunctional
    Families - they are quite common: rather than changing/healing their own
    self-perceived short-comings, they "punish" the child/children instead
    - with put-downs, as well as abuse and violence, etc.
    The causes for this can be due to Alcoholism or other addictions,
    or be a generational perpetuation of "learned family behaviour".
    More on this to come. Regardless the cause: these families are

    In many situations families often put us in the difficult position
    of choosing between family loyalty and maintaining our own
    healthy boundaries.

    Family dynamics are heavily influenced by cultural values; and
    some cultures put a very high value on the closeness of family,
    as well as being loyalty to family. Other cultures do not.

    If you come from a culture which places a high value on familial
    loyalty and your family is fairly toxic, you can be in trouble. It can
    create a real challenge to your own mental health.  

    This is the site's central "Home" page for the dark side of life.

    You'll find articles and support information that explore things
    like, "what does a toxic family look like?" As well as the
    consequences for everyone, especially children (and seniors) in
    these situations.

    You can read about these (and others to come) by following the
    Navigation Menus at either side here (and the one at the bottom
    for many more about the Functional, "bright" side of life: walks
    in the light. More items are being added continually,
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From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman M.A © 2007-2019
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain)
sanity and decency to life -

Questions and comments welcomed.
. . . . there are many good things in life, and ways to get to them.
Below are some topics on the site that may be of help to you, on that.
Child Within


Defeating Behaviours


Stinkin' Thinkin'
The negative self-defeating
thought patterns of dysfunction

Trust Building
A discussion & Tips

Healthy Families/

Relationship Credo

10 Secrets of Fulfilling

(Balanced Self Determined)


About Fear

All About Love