My name is Klaas, also known as Opa.
How can I be of service to you?

A little bit about me, Klaas Tuinman M.A.
Life & spiritual Guide-Coach, Mentor and Facilitator
35 years in private practice - 25 years online distance tele-mentoring (distance counselling)
and Inner Child recovery, healing and empowerment as well as Spiritual Advancement   
activities; and facilitating Workshops and Seminars
Qualifications-Credentials: Training, Education & Other
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Queen’s University,
M.A - Kingston, Ontario, Canada
Psychology-Sociology (and cross-cultural anthropology)

Thornloe College - Theological College at Laurentian University,
Sudbury, Ontario (Religion and spiritual studies)


Post Graduate Studies:
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- Oriental & Muslim Psychology, Philosophy, Religion
- R.D. Laing (healing behaviours of clinically labelled patients)
- Gregory Bateson (reflections on the Double-Bind)
- Shamanic and other studies

Other Related Training and Preparation:
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Saskatchewan New-Start
program (Life Skills facilitation)

Eastern Ontario Clinical Hypnotist Association, Kingston, Ontario
Greater NE Academy of Hypnosis, Peabody, Massachusetts
Logos Program  - Anglican Church of Canada (specialized group
facilitation)

Related Professional Experience:
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Co-moderated of AOL's Abuse Survivors forum (4 years)
Online Social Science tutor for University of San Francisco
Currently developing/hosting this website and helping people
Prior to that, I hosted two online eLists
And before that, operated a Self-Help electronic Bulletin Board System
Dawn Cove Abbey
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Roadside assistance For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
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From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman MA, © 2007-2017
Namaste; Peace
Chaplain, Life Coach, Facilitator, Teacher, Mentor, Priest, Psychotherapist,

Questions and Comments welcomed.
All inquiries held in strictest confidence, and there is no obligation
To sum up what I just said, let me repeat: it is my opinion, there are very few real "disorders". Most of what are
called "disorders" are not medical, physical or "mental"
problems.
  • They are coping mechanisms and strategies of people (victims) who were damaged by a deeply
    dysfunctional culture - and then having tried to "fit into" it, unsuccessfully.
  • The so-called "disorders" are behavioral patterns and modes that they employ to gain or regain their
    sanity; to recover and heal, but because of the fear, they are not always successful.

I will walk your healing journey with you, but since it isn't my journey, because it is yours; we don't walk MY
way. We walk YOUR way. My role is to help you avoid the pitfalls along the way - and point out new  
alternatives and options -
at your speed. For more on this, see the introduction on the Alcoholism main page.
From childhood on, people have fascinated me (they still do): they are so interesting, and yet often so
extremely exasperating as well. You've likely experienced that too, and no doubt
we've both come across that
way to others at times, also: we are "just" human.

Because of circumstances of my youth, I had few young people to interact with, and instead spent a lot of time
with, and around,
"the old folks": the elders. And I sat and listened to them, and their stories: stories about
what they had observed, heard and experienced in life, and what they had learned from all that - and they'd
applied what they had learned into their own lives. They spoke of triumphs and tribulations they had
experienced, as well as having observed those in others.

Most importantly (to me), they also described how they and others dealt with each of those. And one thing
stood out (I only realized that later in life), they didn't give names (labels) to the challenges others had (nor   
to their own): they just gave descriptions - and yet, there was great variation in all the experiences among all
of them.

But no person ever was a "
some-thing name" to them. To them they were simple people they knew, people
who were well-established their own given name; people who in many cases had challenges to overcome -  
and did so to the best of their ability, without the benefit of many of the "problem-solving" methods in vogue,
or use, today. They had acquired "wisdom", something that there is a seemingly short supply of these days.

I never thought about it that way at the time, mostly because I didn't have to current approach to dealing with
"emotional", "mental", or "spiritual" challenges and "problems", to compare them to. I would only learn about
the current ones later (and I'd learn a whole list of "labels" as well).
When I wasn't hanging around the older folks, I read a lot (when I wasn't out wandering in the fields and
forests - I love the outdoors, and nature). My tastes were very eclectic, because usually I could only choose from
what was available; and in reading, you encounter more people, in different situations, places, times and
circumstances, and you learn about how they went about life and its ups and downs. It doesn't matter (it
certainly didn't to me), whether it was fiction or non-fiction; books are written by people, who are
speaking/writing about the human condition. Much can be learned from others, in many ways - on many levels.

How so, you ask? The answer is easy. Often, while reading (particularly in fiction) we slowly blend into the story
and connect with certain portions that resonate with us - and we momentarily reflect, and in the moment we
often get an insight, or a totally new perspective on our situation in life.

Early in my youth, we moved from Holland (Netherlands) to Canada, and after learning the language, I once
again listened to the stories told by the "old folks", and once again I learned much. One such thing was that
certain human challenges appear to be "universal", but are often regarded in quite different ways from
culture to
culture. Not "better" or "worse", just different.
Even more interesting, and somewhat exciting, was that different cultures tend to have different ways of
"dealing with" things. How awesome. And it generated a desire in me, to help people "solve" their "problems"
and challenges, by drawing upon what I'd learned from the adults in my life. A kind of "
paying it forward", so to
speak.

Thus, later on in life I decided to focus more on that desire to help people, and went to college (in my 30's) to
see what I could learn there that would be of use to me in my endeavour. I came, ready to "learn" new insights
and "secrets", so imagine then, my astonishment, to find that there were no "wise old women and men" there,    
who understood humans. Instead, I encountered people in white lab coats, playing with mice and rats, and  
then transposing the findings from their "tests" to human situations. And there were others in similar white
coats who compounded strange chemical concoctions that they gave to their "patients" - yes, they called   
people in trouble, "patients", as if somehow they were sick and could be fixed with some chemical liquid or
solid. Others yet, mapped the brain and generated great theories on how it was a problem in the brain that
created the patients' problems: this was the neuro-bio-chemical approach (for example, using insulin instead,   
to shock the brain into "normalcy"). Worse yet, these folks also subjected "patients" to electroshock the brain,  
to "fix" them (that travesty of all human decency and respect, is still employed) - as well as "frontal lobotomy".

In Sociology also, the trend was to be "scientific" - like mathematics and physics, with "complete" theories that
could/would be applied to people.

The emphasis I encountered in both Sociology and Psychology was on ensuring that people "fit in", that they
were "well-adjusted" and if they weren't, that they were to be "fixed" through the use of chemical or other  
forms of restraint - to make them "fit", even if it meant life incarceration in one form or another. I was  
appalled. This was so far removed from everything I'd learned from the old folks, that I hardly recognized      
we were dealing with the same "subjects": human beings.

Only in Anthropology did I encounter folks who still approached the people they studied and tried to learn  
from, from a very humanistic perspective - one that I could relate to, and learn more from. Which is exactly   
the path I chose, and I learned more, new things, from this field of studies; useful, and helpful things, toward
understanding the human condition, and ways and means of helping them deal with challenges in their lives.
At the same time, I returned to such psychologists/psychiatrists/writers as R.D Laing, Abraham Maslow, Carl
Rogers, Rollo May, Erich Fromm, Edgar Cayce, Scott M. Peck, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Vicktor Frankl, Gregory
Bateson, Andrew Weil, Margaret Mead, Edward Sapir, C.G. Jung, etc. These folks also added greatly to my
understanding, and my growth, in being able to help people in emotional, mental and spiritual need. They were
much more in line with the humanistic realm of the old folks.

Soon after graduating from university, I began to teach "Abnormal Psychology" and other social science
subjects  at the local Community College, always giving my students the "au courant" approach and the
gleanings from  my humanistic approach. At the same time I took special training to be a Life Skills
coach/facilitator (see below). And because the spiritual dimension of life is so important, and there is such  
great variation in  religious beliefs and their impact on people, I also enrolled to become a priest - in order to
gain more understanding, and also to gain people's confidence in the help I was offering. Along the way, I
engaged in self-directed studies in Oriental Religions and Mysticism. I was ordained in 1998: a catholic priest
(not Roman Catholic), and am a member of the
Catholic Apostolic Church Of Antioch.

Concurrently, I opened my private practice, and almost immediately found myself dealing with alcoholism,
family dysfunction, addiction, violence and abuse: a whole new world. Soon after, I began to also use online
methods of providing help to people. Along with this, I do workshops and seminars.

Over the years I learned much, and each day I learn more: I can truly and honestly say that I often learn    
more from my students and clients, than they may be learning from me. I am grateful to all of them, and am
happy to pay it forward by helping others. And it is from all of the above that Dawn Cove Abbey as it is here   
as a site, evolved. It's format is like a gigantic Library with stories and articles, and essays and poems - all of
which contain elements of what I've written above, and any, or all, of which can be the "nudge" that points   
you in the direction of healing and recovery.

What did I learn? Well, I learned that a large number of so-called "disorders", aren't really disorders at all:
rather,
they are people's reactions to circumstances, and the coping methods/mechanisms they use to deal   
with whatever triggered the response,and the response itself.

And with that being the case, those mechanisms required being responded to not as disorders, but as  
responses and coping mechanisms, and help the person identify the trigger - and why the trigger was/is     
there in the first place, discover ways of dealing with it/them, and recovery and healing.

The second thing I learned comes from my involvement with people who experience major problems with
alcohol; particularly with alcohol being an "inhibition remover". It actually works, and works very well. BUT, I  
don't think it is the alcohol, because if it were, it would work that way on most alcohol consumers. I think
the
key is in the decision made just before taking that first drink,
or actually, it lies in the reason for making that
choice,
because that indicates a great level of self-awareness, and of something that should be addressed, but  
is not being done. That process is by-passed by taking the alcohol. What IF, we began helping our clients with
that knowledge to guide us? I have done so, with various degrees of success, because the trigger, and the
reason for the trigger are usually very deep, very painful and very powerful things; things that the pain and  
fear resist dealing with. So that introduces another important factor: fear (which is understood as being
connected to many "disorders" and "phobias" for example, but I do not think they have been explored far
enough, or that the knowledge I share here has been utilized nearly as much as it could be.
Professionally, I am a psyche-therapist and priest (actually, those two titles are synonyms, but that would take
another essay to fully explain). At my ordination, I was commissioned to be a tent-maker priest (meaning
earning my own living and not a paid "employee"); further, I was commissioned to be a "street priest":
itinerant (mobile), providing spiritual, emotional and mental support and help wherever I found someone in
need ("ministering" to their needs). It is a joy to serve in that capacity.

In my "other life", I love the great outdoors, and nature photography is a passion. It's what I do for
stress-relief; the outdoors and walking are good for that, but also to give my creative centres an outlet. I
helped raise 5 children, have 11 grandchildren, and 11 great-grandchildren, and I feel forever young.
Oh yes, I'm 74 years young (2017).  Bless you, I wish you well on your journey.