The right words can make a difference in your life.
There are many things that we can do
to perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships.

Yet the most effective thing
involves the saying of just three words.
When spoken or conveyed,
these statements have the power to forge new friendships,
deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled.

I'll Be There:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night,
to take a sick child to hospital,
or when your car has broken down some miles from home,
you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give.
When we are truly present for other people,
important things happen to them and us.
We are renewed in love and friendship.
We are restored emotionally and spiritually.
Being there is at the very core of civility.

I Miss You:
Perhaps more friendships, relationships and
marriages could be saved and strengthened
if people simply and sincerely said to each other
"I miss you."
This powerful affirmation tells others
they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.
Consider how ecstatic you would feel
if you received an unexpected phone call
from your friend or partner
in the middle of your workday,
that said
"I miss you."

I Respect You:
Respect is a powerful way of showing love.
Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal.
If you talk to your children as if they were adults (i.e. have brains)
you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends.
This applies to all inter-personal relationships.

Maybe You're Right:
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions.
The flip side to
"maybe your right"
is the humility of admitting, "Maybe I'm wrong".

Let's face it.
When you have a heated argument with someone,
all you do is cement the other person's point of view.
They, or you, will not change their stance
and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.
"maybe you're right" can open the door
to further explore the subject,
in which you may then have the opportunity
to get your view across in a more rational manner;
and they theirs.

Please Forgive Me:
Many broken friendships and relationships
could be restored and healed
if people would admit their mistakes
and ask for forgiveness.
All of us are vulnerable to faults, follies and failures.
You should never be ashamed to own up that you have been in the wrong,
which is saying, in other words,
that you are wiser today than you were yesterday.

I Thank You:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy.
People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends
are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted.
They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness.
On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted
often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.
Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship;
it is the emotional glue that bonds people.
Those who are impoverished in friendship tend either to have no one to count on,
and often see an outflow of former “friends”.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends.
When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can "count on me."

Let Me Help:
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it.
When they spot a hurt they do what they can to help heal it.
Without being asked,
they pitch in and help.

I Understand You:
People become closer and enjoy each other more
if they feel the other person accepts and understands them.
Letting your friend or partner know in so many little ways that you understand them,
is one of the most powerful tools for maintaining or healing your relationship.
Understanding is acceptance.
This applies to
any relationship.

I Love You:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say.
Telling someone that you truly love them
satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs;
the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted.
Your family, your friends and you,
all need to hear those three little words.
"I love you." 1
We all withhold love at one time or another.
We shut down; shut people out;
refuse to budge from our opinions or demands.

When you refuse to share what you are feeling
and how the other person has contributed to those feelings,
you are withholding your love.

When you allow the fear of being hurt, feeling rejected,
or looking dumb make you act like you just don't care,
you are withholding your love.

Whenever you are not offering the truth
of your experience to those who share the experience,
you are withholding your love.

Whatever is not an expression of Love
is an expression of fear.
Withholding love for any reason
is a sign that we are crying out in fear.
Fear of being hurt.
Fear that our love will not be reciprocated.

When you find yourself backing up,
pulling back, withdrawing from another person, ask yourself,
"Why am I withholding my love?"

What you are likely to discover
is that there is a hidden fear
forcing you to do something
you would not like to have done to you.

Starting today, stand in truth! Do what is Loving!
When you feel afraid, acknowledge and admit it.
Do not withhold your love or kindness. 2

Find the person who will love you because of your differences
and not in spite of them,
and you have found a lover for life.
The final set of three “little” words:
I Am Here,
my friend - always;
anytime - for you.
[1] -Three Little Words ~unknown
[2] – Do Not Withhold Your Love  ~Michael
[3] ~Leo Buscaglia
MorningStar Inspirations from
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"One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman M.A, © 2007-2020

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