Life Is NOT About . . . it is about . . . .
You may not be able to say what good is, but you will know when you have
strayed from it by a pain in your soul that you feel as conscience.
Life is not about . . .
Life isn't about keeping score.
It's not about how many friends you have. Or how accepted you are.
Not about if you have plans this weekend or if you are alone.
It isn't about who you're dating, who you used to date, or how many people you've
dated, or if you haven't been with anyone at all.
It isn't about who you have kissed. It's not about sex.
It isn't about who your family is or how much money they have, or what kind of car
you drive, or where you are sent to school.
It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are, or what clothes you wear, what shoes
you have on, or what kind of music you listen to.
It's not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, or brown. Or if your skin is too light
or too dark.
Not about what grades you get, how smart you are, how smart everybody else
thinks you are, or how smart standardized tests say you are.
It's not about what clubs you're in or how good you are at "your" sport.
It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who
will accept “the written you."
And it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. Life isn't about that. 1
Life is not about Talents -- Everybody has some.
A person of great talents (everyone is) who will not give it all it takes,
will consistently achieve less than another of fewer talents who will.
Life is not about Skills -- Anyone can get them.
A person of great skills, and nothing more,
will consistently perform less than a person of lower skills
who will give it all it takes.
Life is not about Luck - - You can create yours.
Luck always finds that person who will give it all it takes:
Life is not about Fate -- That's a lame excuse.
Fate simply doesn't exist where they are.
Life is not about Feelings -- They are like clothes.
You wore one yesterday; you chose another today. Feelings can be chosen.
The person who gives it all wears their feelings like a garment.
They choose them to serve their purpose. They are their servants –
they call on them to do their bidding. 2
Life IS About . . .
Life is about who you love, and who you hurt. It's about who you make happy,
or unhappy, Purposefully.
It's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness, and compassion.
It's about keeping or betraying trust. It's about friendship, used as a sanctity, or a
In your association with others, put yourself in their place.
Enter into their feelings, their difficulties, their disappointments, their joys and their
sorrows. Identify yourself with them, and then do to them as, were you to exchange
places with them, you would wish them to deal with you. 3
It's about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge. And overcoming them and building
confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean, maybe hurtful, maybe
encouraging and elevating.
Lash out in speech or actions when you are angry, afraid or hurt, and you will
make the best speech or actions you will ever regret.
About starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip. It's about what judgments
you pass and why. And who your judgments are spread to.
It's about who you've ignored deliberately and intentionally. It’s about grudges you
hold, and who you forgive. It's about carrying inner hate and love, letting it grow,
and spreading it.
But most of all, it's about using your life to touch meaningfully, or to destroy and
poison meanly, other people's hearts in such a way that could have never occurred
alone. Only you choose the way those hearts are affected.
It's about seeing people for who they are and not for what they have. Most of all it
is choosing to use your life in a way that could have never been achieved otherwise.
These choices are what life's about. 4
To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground.
Pray that you make right choices, and harm none. People will judge you by your
actions, not your intentions. They remember what you’ve done to them, more than
what you said.
Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in
your relationships - and treating others as they deserve;
Living with integrity means commitment. Reciprocal respect, loyalty and total
honesty are the sole essences of commitment, with no other script or agenda –
anything more is power and control.
When we respect ourselves, we can respect others; when we have our own
boundaries, we can be loyal. When we are not in denial, we can be honest, and
when we can love ourselves, we can finally love others.
Living with integrity means: Asking for what you want and need from others, and
honouring their requests. Speaking truth, even though it might create conflict or
tension – and be prepared to hear it.
Living with integrity means: Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your
personal values while causing no harm to others. Making choices based on what
you believe, and not what others believe; for we cannot do evil to others without
doing it to ourselves.
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness, amends and reconciliation cause you
to grow beyond what you were.
Only the wounded heal; only the separated reconcile.
 ~Chimezirim Odimba
 ~Author Unknown
Roadside Assistance For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman M.A, © 2007-2020
Questions and comments welcomed.