-Condemning Yourself for Past Mistakes ~anon
 ~Catherine Pulsifer
 -Do Not Condemn Yourself For Past
 ~Kahlil Gibran
 ~Heidi L. Mosher
 ~Laurence J. Peter
 ~Norman Vincent Peale
 ~Chandoyga Upanishad
Contributed by Deborah Canivet
Do Not Condemn Yourself For Past Mistakes
Positive thoughts generate power, negative ones waste it. 1
It is not difficult to inject endless hours of frustration and stress into your life
For example . . . Think of all the things you did or failed to do in the past:
especially, things which you cannot do anything about now.
Constantly remind yourself of them and beat yourself up for them. A good way to do this is to
keep whining about them. If you can regularly complain to others, it is even better!
Remember to sigh a lot, too.
There's nothing like constant verbal (and mental) repetition; persistently dwelling on them
makes these past mistakes really stick.
Then, tell yourself that you'll never be able to adjust your behaviour to prevent similar errors
in future. Learning from mistakes just never crossed your mind. Remember, self-
improvement is a myth.
This kind of thinking will start a vicious cycle. Remembering how incapable, unlovable,
and foolish you are will enable you to continue repeating past mistakes.
The next part is essential in order for the entire self-loathing process to work. In no time,
you'll be able to whittle your self-esteem down to such a degree that you will have
no problem thinking you're absolutely incapable of success and happiness.
This strategy is amazingly simple: reinforce negative thoughts and experiences,
and they will inevitably lead to negative feelings and outcomes.
Remember, you are not special, you are not unique; the world simply doesn't need
another loser like you.
If you're doing everything right, by this time, you would have lost most of your friends,
alienated your family members, lost your appetite for food and life, and are looking forward to
a lonely, meaningless existence.
So, if you're ever bored, and need to kill some time, depress your spirit and embrace failure
as the controller of your life, try condemning yourself for past mistakes.
Have fun. 2
~ Instead of condemning yourself . . . . . . Don't bring yourself down.
Stop saying to yourself "Boy was I stupid", or "I’m a loser and I think I’ll always be."
If that is what’s going on in your mind . . . - stop it! If that is your internal dialog
when you make a major boo-boo . . . - change it!
The key is: be kind to yourself. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses and accept your
temporary failure. Human beings are not perfect; they will always be making mistakes.
If you reject yourself when you are messing up, you are only being a fair-weather friend to
yourself. You wouldn’t like to have a friend who is good to you when you are rich
and disappears when you are broke and in trouble.
But that’s exactly how you are to yourself when you acknowledge your strengths and
triumphs, but you don’t accept your weaknesses and failures; a fair-weather friend to
Don't let your mistakes alone define who you are. Spend time to consider what your
strengths and good qualities are.
You are accountable for your actions, your decisions, your life; no one else is,
but you. 3
Move past your mistakes and work only on the repeated mistakes that are holding you back.
Never neglect your strengths and good qualities. Smile and laugh at your blunders, errors,
past mistakes and faux pas whether major or minor.
Don’t take life (and yourself) so seriously. Watch out for the saboteur -”I want to but I can’t" -
mentality inside of you. You only have to accept the fact that your visas are going to be
stamped one day . . . that you are not getting out of this beautiful world alive.
So you have to learn and savour every hour. Truly experience every sweet moments of life.
Appreciate the fascinating journey you’re taking. Winning or failing, you win by just being
here on this wondrous planet.
Get off that self-blaming kick. For goodness sake, have you not heard of forgiveness? 4
Self-hate is exhausting. With forgiveness love is possible again. C’mon, if you have
a pulse, you have a purpose.
Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you
cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done
is feel all you are beyond that pain. 5
We must celebrate, embrace, and rejoice in our accomplishments. It is within each one of us
to rise to the occasion, grapple with new knowledge, learn from our mistakes,
and emerge from the cocoon: a metamorphic wonder. 6
Real, constructive mental power lies in the creative thought that shapes your destiny,
and your hour-by-hour mental conduct produces power for change in your life.
Develop a train of thought on which to ride. The nobility of your life as well as your
happiness depends upon the direction in which that train of thought is going. 7
Think excitement, talk excitement; act out excitement, and you are bound to become an
excited person. Life will take on a new zest, deeper interest and greater meaning.
You can think, talk and act yourself into dullness or into monotony or into unhappiness.
By the same process you can build up inspiration, excitement and surging depth of joy. 8
To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough
that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more
poetry to it, a little more dance to it. 9
There is a Light that shines beyond all things on earth, beyond us all, beyond the heavens,
beyond the very highest heavens, this is the Light that shines in our heart. 10
No one need be common, no life need be ordinary.
MorningStar Inspirations from
Dawn Cove Abbey
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