A gem from a refrigerator door
1~ You will receive a body.
You have received a body.
You may like it or hate it,
but it will be yours
. . . for your entire life.
You can choose to change how it relates to the gravitational field,
or you can ignore its imbalances that developed over time
and feel miserable.
. . . with rare exceptions,
your body will accurately
reflect your inner state . . .
(healthy minds / emotions
result in healthy bodies . . .)
2~ You will learn lessons.
You will learn lessons about your body, mind and behaviour.
You are enrolled in a full-time,
informal school called life.
Each day in this school
you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.
You may like the lessons
or think them irrelevant and stupid.
3~ There are no mistakes,
Growth is a process of
The "failed" experiments
are as much a part of the process
as the experiments
that ultimately "work".
4~ Lessons are repeated until they are learned.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms
until you have learned it.
When you have learned it,
you can then go on to the next lesson.
5~ Learning lessons does not end.
There is no part of life that doesn't
contain its lessons.
If you're alive,
there are still lessons to be learned.
6~ "There" is no better than "here".
When your "there"
has become "here",
you will simply have acquired
that will look better
than your current "here" again.
The grass always only looks
greener on the other side . . .
you can easily can end up
you’re on the “wrong” side . . .
whether you are “here” or “there”.
. . . it is a process that goes on ad infinitum;
because you're looking for the wrong thing,
in the wrong places.
7~ Other people are merely mirrors of you.
You can not love
or hate something
about another person
unless it reflects to you
something you love
8~ What you make of your life is up to you.
You have all the tools and resources you need.
What you do with them
is up to you.
The choice is yours.
But when you need a little intervention from others,
don't forget to ask for help.
Are you discouraged or frustrated
by the search for answers
to your life’s challenges?
9~ Your answers lie inside you, in your body and in your mind.
The answers to life's questions lie inside you.
All you need to do is look,
listen and trust.
10~ You will remember all this and forget all this,
and remember and forget . . .
go back to rule # 1
You can remember them any time you want . . .
The choice is yours. 2
(Please remember them)
|The Ten Rules for Being Human are
not mandates or “musts”. There is
nothing you absolutely must do.
To quote Albert Ellis, they are not
meant to make you a “musterbator”.
They are not a quick fix for emotional
or spiritual ailments, or a fast track to
the secrets to enlightenment.
They are not magic, nor do they
promise ten easy steps to serenity.
They are simply guidelines as to how
to play the game.
Their sole purpose is to give you a
road map to follow as you travel
your journey of life (spiritual
roadside assistance on your journey).
The answers to life's questions
truly lie inside you . . .
never outside . . .
There is no “out there” to search:
all learning is re-learning
and comes from within;
all you need to do
and trust. 1
The life you have led
doesn't need to be the only life you have. 3
Living with integrity means:
Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships.
Asking for what you want and need from others.
Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension.
Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.
Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe. 4
When you are content to be simply yourself
and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you. 5
It's never too late; never too late to start over,
never too late to be happy. 6
Words exist because of meaning.
Once you've gotten the meaning, you can forget the words.
Where can I find a man who has forgotten words so I can talk with him? 7
I hope this presentation will help you to become more aware of the
10 Rules For Being Human.
By absorbing their wisdom and learning their valuable lessons,
your life journey might just a bit easier. 1
Please don't forget them . . . and please help someone else learn them
 ~Klaas Tuinman
 -Rules For Being Human ~Anon (From "Notes on A Refrigerator Door")
 -Anna Quindlien
 -Barbara De Angelis
 ~Jane Fonda
 ~Chuang Tzu
|The Rules For Being Human (notes from a Refrigerator Door)
MorningStar Inspirations from
Dawn Cove Abbey
"Roadside Assistance" For Your Journey Through Life
- Dedicated to helping people return (and maintain) sanity and decency to life -
From the eBook: "One! The Journey hOMe", by Klaas Tuinman MA, © 2007-2019
Questions and comments welcomed.
"What's it all about, Alfie?
Is it just for the moment we live?
What's it all about when you sort it out, Alfie?”
so go the words in Burt Bacharach’s song a number of years ago.
It spoke of the enigma we call life. Life is a puzzle to many people: in fact
it is often described as being a game; to them it is one where no one ever
(or seldom) tells us the “rules, or give us proper instructions on how to play it.
Worse yet, from their perspective, much of the time we don't even know
exactly what the objective of playing is, let alone knowing what it means
to actually “win” (be successful). Even when we ask, more confusion arises
because of people “never saying what they mean, or meaning what they
say”, as Joe South so eloquently sang. If that’s how it seems, who wouldn’t
For those to whom it seems that way, we’re just plunked at "go", and left
to our own devices to make our way around the best way we can; always
hoping we’re playing it right. That’s where the Ten Rules for Being
Human comes in.
More than simple guidelines to playing the game called life, they form a
basic spiritual primer for what it means to be a human: age-old universal
truths that everyone inherently knows . . . but has forgotten somewhere
along the way.
Whether or not life is, or has been this extreme for you, the truths of these
rules remind us of the common reality we all share - these rules. The rules
can help us understand both our own situation and someone else’s plight.
They can also be used by any of us to help someone else help themselves.
A refresher never hurts.
And of course, now that we know them, or re-member them, we can be
the agents who break this cycle; and stop perpetuating the “game with
unknown rules”. 1
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it's precious, and encouraging food for thought.