|Alcoholism (and other addictions) Are a Family/Community Disease?
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What's going on? I/We don't have a problem!
He... him... he/she's the Alcoholic/Addict!
She/He's the one who causes all the problems!
He/she's the one in trouble all the time ... Read on
There's an element of truth in this, at first glance, that changes
quickly when we look a bit closer; for when we do, we can see a
kind of schematic of the setup.
First, there's the person who is the main character: the one who's
drinking is out of control. BUT secondly, we see those in the
immediate vicinity who are also directly affected by that drinking
behaviour - and all its ramification.
In a family situation, there will be, besides the "drinker/addict", the
partner, spouse, mate, etc, and the child, or children - and there
is the "Community". ALL are impacted: They all hear, and see,
and very often "feel" the consequences. Many, if not most of those,
are anything but pleasant. In extreme cases (which are very
common) they are horrible: see "The Amazing Power Of Alcohol"
listed here on the Navigation menu at the left, for just how big,
and bad the impact on everyone else can be.
understanding, and dealing with, alcoholism. The one is the familiar
"disease" model, and the other is the "Habit/Learned Behaviour" model.
For more on that, see the Alcoholism-Home page. **
So our next look, a deeply
related one, is the impact
on the Children: it is huge.
Suggestion: see "Children
Of Alcoholic Families".
That impact has two
dimensions: First, the direct
effects on them.
True, but he/she's also
predictable and kids can
read the alcoholic like a
book. Of course, they know
exactly when it's the right
time to ask for extra
money, or to go somewhere
with their friends, and
also know when it's
time to make themselves
scarce and get out
of the way.
They know the routine
as far as the alcoholic
is concerned. But they
never know where the
parent is coming from next.
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